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    9 Marriage Questions, AnsweredAsk Polly’s best advice on infidelity, in-laws, and making a marriage last.
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    Ask Polly: ‘How Do I Get the Love of My Life to Take a Leap With Me?’Frankly, he’s right to be wary — your entire focus in life is on him.
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    Advice for All the Single PeopleHeather Havrilesky’s best Ask Polly columns about being alone.
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    ‘My Job Is Making Me Sick and Miserable!’You are at the center of a dysfunctional ecosystem.
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    Ask Polly: ‘My Idiot Boyfriend Claims I Want a Ring, But I Don’t!’But you do want something, or you wouldn’t be so upset about this.
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    Ask Polly: ‘Is Agreeing to a Casual Relationship Undignified?’This is an impossible, neuroses-inducing trap for any woman.
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    Writing for the Awl Was the Best Mid-Career Decision I Ever MadeOn loving what you do, taking a pay cut, and developing Ask Polly.
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    Ask Polly: ‘Should I Have a Baby?’The main things holding you back from having kids are your worries and fears.
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    Ask Polly: ‘I’m Too Old for Love, But I Want It Anyway!’You’re angry at yourself for being a human with needs.
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    Ask Polly: ‘Why Am I So Lazy?’Notice how deeply you’ve made messiness and procrastination part of your identity.
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    Ask Polly: ‘How Do I Leave My Lying, Cheating Boyfriend?’You’re so used to living in a house of mirrors that the real world feels empty and lonely and sad by comparison.
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    Ask Polly: ‘I’m a Struggling Writer Whose Life Is Falling Apart!’Don’t just suck it up and be positive.
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    The Best ‘Ask Polly’ Advice Columns of 2017Heather Havrilesky on love, death, relationships, and more.
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    Ask Polly: ‘I Can’t Decide on a Career and I Feel Like Garbage!’Everyone wants to know what their future will look like.
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    Ask Polly: ‘I Can’t Sit Still.’You need to develop and nurture a good relationship with yourself.
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    Ask Polly: ‘I Moved Back Home and No One Else Is Single!’You have to admit to yourself just how bad this feels.
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    Ask Polly: ‘I Have Everything I’ve Ever Wanted But I’m Still Unhappy’You’re a classic self-blaming overachieving perfectionist.
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    Ask Polly: ‘I Want to Be a Writer, But I Can’t Stop Wasting Time on Instagram!’Start paying close attention to how social media functions in your life.
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    Ask Polly: ‘I’m Dying But I Want to Be in Love’You shouldn’t feel guilty about wanting someone by your side.
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    Ask Polly: ‘I Hate Men.’Most men are terrible, but don’t let them control your happiness.
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    Ask Polly: ‘All My Friends Are Getting Married and Leaving Me Behind!’Having friends as an adult is nothing like having friends in your 20s.
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    Ask Polly: ‘I Can’t Stop Obsessing About Finding Love!’Believing in love isn’t a personal failure.
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    Ask Polly: ‘I Work Too Hard and I’m Still Poor and Miserable!’You have to decide to be good to yourself.
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    Ask Polly: ‘I Can’t Deal With My Friends’ Drama Any More!’Learn to say no.
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    Ask Polly: ‘Tell Me Not to Get Married!’You value security a lot — there’s nothing wrong with that.
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    Ask Polly: ‘Are You Happier Than You Were in Your Twenties?’Sadness doesn’t define you, even if it feels that way right now.
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    Ask Polly: ‘I’m Staring Into the Void!’You’re absurdly sensitive and very afraid of the real world.
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    Ask Polly: ‘Half of My Co-Workers Hate Me!’When you don’t like people that much but you want them to like you, it never works.
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    Ask Polly: ‘My Ex Ruined My Whole College Experience!’Being obsessed with the wrong person can ruin anything.
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    Ask Polly: I’m Obsessed With the Co-worker I Hooked Up With!He’s a trap. Stay away!
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    Ask Polly: Nothing in My Life Feels Big EnoughCan you tell other people what matters most to you?
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    Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Has ALS, and My Friends Are Making Things WorseRemember, death is always on the way.
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    Ask Polly: I’m Scared I’ll Destroy My Marriage!Your fears will only break your marriage if you’re so ashamed that you hide them.
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    Ask Polly: I Hate All Jobs!You aren’t wrong that offices can be miserable.
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    Ask Polly: It Seems Like My Friends Don’t Like MeThey aren’t the right friends for you.
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    Ask Polly: I’m Terrified of Having Kids!Parents are always telling horror stories.
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    Ask Polly: I Moved for My Job, and It Was a Huge Mistake!Start by forgiving yourself.
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    Ask Polly: Was I Wrong to Dump My Boyfriend?It’s incredibly lonely to break up with a perfectly great partner simply because you’re not sure.
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    Ask Polly: My Friend Keeps Dating My Exes!Get this woman out of your life.
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    Ask Polly: Do People Ever Really Escape Their Dysfunctional Families?We are who we are.
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    Ask Polly: Do I Smoke Too Much Pot?Take a break and find out how you really feel.
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    Ask Polly: He Wanted an Open Relationship. Why Wasn’t I Enough?You’ll be enough for the right person.
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    Ask Polly: I Can’t Pass the Bar!Take a leap of faith.
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    Ask Polly: Why Am I Obsessed With Married Men?Being the “other woman” wouldn’t live up to your fantasies.
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    Ask Polly: I Tried to Tell My Friend She’s a Bad Drunk!Opening your mouth is complicated. That’s why most people don’t do it.
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    Ask Polly: How Do I Escape My Professional Envy?Remember that the targets for your jealousy are irrelevant.
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    Ask Polly: I’m a Stepmom, But I Want a Baby of My Own!This is a completely understandable desire.
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    Ask Polly: Men Are Too Intimidated to Date Me!Your assumptions are getting in your way.
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    Ask Polly: My Married Friends Are Driving Me Crazy!Here’s what you should do: Nothing.
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    Ask Polly: My Ex-Friends Think I’m Selfish and Terrible!Were they ever really your friends in the first place?
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