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    Ask Polly: Is Life All Downhill From Here?Don’t assume that the future is even worse that the present.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: What Am I Doing Wrong With Men?You think you have to be on all the time.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Now That We’re In Our 30s, My Friends Are Abandoning Me!Sometimes people just don’t show up for you.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: What Does Love Feel Like?Get a dog and find out!
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: My Friend Says I’m Always Competing With Her for Men!Is she really your friend?
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Why Does My Terrible Ex Get to Be So Happy?Your question isn’t really about your ex.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I Quit My Job to Have a Baby, Then I Had a MiscarriageWhy is it so hard for women to talk about these things?
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Why Do I Only Want Unavailable Men?It’s easy to give your love to someone who doesn’t care.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Am I Pretty?What would be different if you were?
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I Overshared My Way Out of a Boyfriend!Your oversharing is an insecure, impulsive attempt to fix everything.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I Got Sick, Dumped, and Fired. What Now?This is an incredible moment in your life.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Men Are the Worst, and I’m Married to One!Don’t turn the story of ignorant white men into a story about your actual husband.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I’m Trying to Be Kinder, But It’s So Hard!Stop blaming yourself.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: My Boyfriend’s Friends Don’t Like Me!Don’t be so quick to see rejection.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Should I Quit Grad School?Not just yet.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: When Will I Feel Worthy?Start by feeling your feelings.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I’m Pretending I’m Happy Single, But I’m Not!Stop faking it.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Dumped Me for a Crazy Reason!This guy needs a therapist.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I Finally Got Sober, but I’m Losing Faith!Stop believing that you don’t believe.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I Hate Going Out, But I Feel Boring Staying In!Don’t worry about what other people think.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I Was Roofied at My High School Reunion!What you experienced is a very personal form of terrorism.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I Moved Back Home and I’m Miserable!Your mom is not going to save you.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: How Do I Deal With My Trump-Voter Dad?This is not exactly in the optimal state for patient conversations with close relatives.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I Don’t Believe Anything I Do Will Make a Difference!It doesn’t make you a saint to care about others right now; it makes you a human with blood in your veins.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: How Do I Feel Hope at a Time Like This?Election edition.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I’ve Failed at Everything I Worked to AchieveSooner or later, we all discover that life is not a never-ending victory march.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Why Was This Vacation Such a Disaster?Stop wondering what you did wrong.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Should I Start Blogging Again?Writing stuff that’s deeply personal can feel like breathing in deeply for the first time
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Why Won’t My Former FriendsForgive Me?You don’t actually want their friendship.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Is He In Love With Me, or Has He Broken Me?He’s an emotionally arrested clown.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I’m Trapped With a Nice Guy in the Wrong Country!This isn’t his fault.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Should I Try to Help My Alcoholic Friend?You’ve already done all you can.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Why Do Women Obsess About Babies and Fertility?Women struggling to conceive go through hell.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Why Am I So Upset About Someone Else’s Pregnancy?This isn’t about the baby.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Am I Too Intense to Have Close Friends?You’re just attracted to people who seem not to need you.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Aren’t Some People Just Doomed to Be Miserable?The world isn’t split into two factions. It’s not that simple.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: My Boyfriend’s Ex Is Torturing Me!Remember, she has no power here.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: How Do I Stop Being a Fake?Don’t believe the story you’ve told yourself.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Am I Too Uptight?Practice letting go of control a little.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: My Ex Was Awful, But I Can’t Get Over Him!You’ve got to stop believing he’s the center of the universe.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I’m Broke and I Hate My Job!A boring job that doesn’t even pay well is the purest waste of time in the world.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: How Do I Dump My Crappy Best Friend?Don’t argue. State your values, and move on.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    It’s Never Been Harder to Be YoungThe Cut’s Ask Polly on what she’s learned giving advice.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: How Do I Accept Myself and Fit In?Give yourself a break.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: When Will My Boyfriend Realize I’m Too Needy to Love?Stop asking for his approval.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: How Do I Help My 25-Year-Old Daughter?Don’t project your own anxieties.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Why Am I Always Too Much for Men?You aren’t listening.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: What Did I Do to Deserve This?You’re reaching for love in spite of huge obstacles.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I’m Having a Midlife Crisis!You have to start savoring what you do.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: My Husband Can’t Handle Money, and It’s Ruining Our Lives!You’ve got to take control here.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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