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    Ask Polly: Why Do I Always Want Unavailable Men?This isn’t about the men.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: My Sister Has Cancer, and I Can’t Go OnEven though you’d rather crawl into a hole than face this reality, you can’t.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Should I Help Others or Be an Artist?They don’t have to be contradictory!
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Why Do Men Even Want to Date Women?Making yourself feel superior to other women is not a good look.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Why Should I Keep Going?Stop trying to escape where you are.  
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I’m an Outspoken Comedian and Men Don’t Want Me!Forget about the comedian dudes you’re pursuing.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: How Do I Start Believing in My Worth?Remember, we’re all 90 percent microbes.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: When Will These Doubts About My Girlfriend Go Away?Depends what kind of doubts.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: My Father Raped Me.I’m so sorry for what you’ve endured.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: What Am I Doing Wrong With Men?Nothing, except fixating on what’s wrong with you.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Says It’s No Big Deal If We Break Up!Don’t waste your time trying to be chill.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Why Did My Oldest Friend Dump Me?You need to let go.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Can I Dump My Dying Boyfriend?No one can make this decision for you.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Am I Too Controlling?No, but you can’t save someone from himself.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I’m a Former Fat Nerd. Will Anyone Ever Love Me?Nothing is less interesting than men who have always had it all. 
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Why Did My Dream Man Dump Me?No one can be a sexy badass all the time.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: How Do I Express My Feelings Like a Human?Being human means messing this stuff up.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Am I Too Anxious to Ever Find Love?Accept that you can’t control everything.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: How Can I Make My Marriage Last?Generosity, exercise, and a really big bed.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Am I a Woman or a Man or Something Else?You don’t have to decide everything right now.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I Finally Came Out and My First Lover Ghosted Me“Right after I came out, I lost my virginity and had my heart broken.”
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly’s Holiday Survival GuideHow to avoid regressing to a childlike state and setting your house on fire during your next visit home.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: How Do I Deal With My Nasty Brother?He needs to put on his big-boy pants.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I’m Homesick But I Can’t Move Home!Every location on the planet has its particular indignities.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Should I Date a Single Mom With an Out-of-Control Kid?First, you both need to figure some things out.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Should I Get a Boob Job?Why are you asking for permission?
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I’m Sick of Being Unhappy and Alone!It’s time to get as far outside yourself as you can.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Can I Start Over in a New Career?You’re unlikely to succeed in a field you don’t believe in or enjoy.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I’m Obsessed With Making People Jealous of My Perfect Life!Act like no one cares, because they don’t.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Am I Too Smart for My Own Good?Stop thinking of yourself as cursed.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Why Do You Always Tell People to Go to Therapy?Having an objective listener makes a difference.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Should I Tell Him What I Want?Do it — NOW.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Will I Ever Find Love As a Single Mom?Don’t give up on yourself.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: How Do I Show Him My Dark Side?Just unleash your dragons.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Why Doesn’t Anyone Like Me No Matter How Hard I Try?Let go of your faulty formula.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Am I a Boring, Empty, Soulless Fake?Even if you were, what would that mean?
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Should I Just Give Up on My Writing?Writing can’t be a popularity contest, and popularity doesn’t add up to much anyway.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Should I Go for My Dream Girl?Don’t settle!
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: How Do I Help My Selfish, Depressed Friend?Dump her.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Why Is Everyone Succeeding Except Me?Put your ego aside and figure out what makes you happy.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: My Boyfriend Doesn’t Want Kids, But I Think I Do!Your problem here goes beyond the question of children.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Why Is My Ex’s Happiness Making Me So Sad?You’re human. That’s fine.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I Keep Drifting Into Meaningless Flings!As long as you treat sex as reassurance, you won’t find the relationship you want.
    By Heather Havrilesky
  44. Ask Polly: Are My Friends Using Me?Stop trying to solve their problems.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I’m 36—Did I Miss My Chance for Love?You haven’t done anything wrong, and you still have time.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: How Do I Stop Obsessing Over My Former Enemy?You’re lucky — this is an opportunity.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: How Do I Make Conversation?Don’t act like a robot.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Why Doesn’t Anything Feel Fun?You’ve powered down your feelings.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: Should I Dump My Oldest Friend?Set some boundaries.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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    Ask Polly: I’m Panicked That He’ll Leave Me. They Always Do!Put your hopes and dreams first and hold back some of what you’re thinking.
    By Heather Havrilesky
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